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Carina
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12th April 2006 - 01:53 pm |
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Last year, I was bullied every French lesson by a boy who was the star of the swim team, track team and soccer team. All the girls loved him and he was considered clever and witty.
It started on the first day after winter break. I arrived to French late, and all the tables had been filled. I never really had any friends in that class, so I just sat alone.
The teacher moved me- right in front of him. At the time I didn't mind. I didn't really care, we had been friends the year before.
He then said to me, 'I'm gonna make you cry. It's going to be easy, and I'm going to enjoy it'. I laughed, and he mocked me. Every lesson for the next month and a half was spent digging my nails into my palms, trying not to cry. I never really did and always forced a smile, which of course he mocked.
I told everyone- my parents, my friends, even the teachers. Nobody really cared. 'Just ignore him', they said.
He made fun of every flaw I had- everything. I don't remember a lot of it, but it was mostly about mistakes I had made in the past.
One day, it had been two days since we had changed the tables. I wasn't sitting with him any longer. Then, my French teacher read aloud the groups we'll be having for the new project. Yeah, he was in my group.
He sat my table and I cringed. He glared at me and I just looked at my work. When the bullying began, I started screaming. I'm not sure why, but I don't think I could've taken it any longer. The teacher came over and she asked what was wrong. 'He's been trying to make me cry since the first day back', I said. I told her the story as another bully, one of his friends was watching. He's rude and inconsiderate. Nobody really likes him.
As I finished explaining,I finally started to cry and his friend said, 'Hey, Shaun, I think you've done it!'. And he really was happy.
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Affiliated
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12th April 2006 - 02:01 pm |
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WTF:S
That guy is sick:S |
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Mattness
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12th April 2006 - 02:19 pm |
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Yeah, that guy ís sick.
<3. |
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Raelynn
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12th April 2006 - 03:12 pm |
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Aw man :(
I had my fair share when I was in elementary school. There was a boy named Jason that for some reason thought I was fat and would call me that in front of all the other kids. He just tried to make my life a living hell for about 4 years.
There was a girl I lived next to for about 10 years, and we were friends here and there, but really.. and I dont say stuff like this often, but she was jealous of me. My parents spoiled me a little bit when I was younger, so she would always steal my things. I was friends with these other girls in the neighborhood and she would tell them stories that I called them bad names.
Eventually it got to the point where she started to physically hurt me. One day we went got off the bus she waited for the bus to disappear then just beat the crap out of me with her bookbag, which was full of books. I told my Mom about it, and my Mom waited in her car the next day to see if she would do the same thing. She did and my Mom verbally ripped her a new one, and she never hit me again.
That was all in elementary school. Through middle school and high school she still did things to make me unhappy, while still trying to be my friend. When I became friends with her crowd of people, she got upset. One of the boys she liked, liked me and she did everything she could for him to think I was gross but spreading nasty rumors about me (like that I had masturbated with a hairbrush).
I've never been super popular, but Im kind of like that kid in the movie that is friends with everyone.. like I had stoner friends, jock friends, cheerleader friends, etc. So I think in high school she just got super jealous of my ability to have friends, and because she is two years older than me, just thought she should be cooler or something. So she went back to her old tricks of telling my friends that I said bad things about them. However, at this point, no one believed her. It was ridiculous. She was a joke.
Eventually she moved away after highschool and my life will be complete if I never see her again.
I can still remember some of the things she stole from me that my parents gave me. I wish I had gotten them back. |
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Andrea
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12th April 2006 - 03:16 pm |
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Geez Carina. :( *hugs*
People have *tried* to bully me, but I wasn't a good victim I think. I would just ignore them, pretendthat I was so stupid that I didn't notice anything. So yeah, I suppose that's why they didn't bother/stopped quickly doing it. |
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Haley
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12th April 2006 - 03:20 pm |
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Carina, is that -your- story? Wow...That's really screwed up of him...Seriously...What did the teacher do after that? |
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pookiebear21
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12th April 2006 - 07:13 pm |
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:(
I was bullied all the way through school because i was over weight and because people found out about me being sexually abused when i was 7 because my mum had to tell the teachers, the girls went around saying i slept with an old man and that i was lying about it and that i loved it and shit and none of the teachers did anything. In high school people use to stab me in the back with pens, spit on me, trip me over, corner me and kick and punch me and all that crap, i remember sitting in a german lesson and this boy sat behind me shouted "ew look you can see kellys back fat hanging over her bra through her shirt" everyone laughed at me even my friends and the teacher just sat there and smiled :I I didnt cry tho i waited till i got home. people called me kelly crates because i had crates of fat and other names that i wont mention cause they still make me want to cry and im 21 now!
I hate bullying, my sister gets bullied and the teachers do nothing. makes me sick |
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Jenny
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12th April 2006 - 07:59 pm |
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Aw. :( I'm so sorry you had to experience that. :-/ Nobody should ever have to go through with that.
I've never actually been through a serious problem, I think that was because I grew up in 'the' right crowd? Even though I was very different from anybody else and had lots of different interests - they mainly left me alone because my friends have the 'supremity' over them.. |
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AcidDoll
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12th April 2006 - 08:31 pm |
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All those stories are very sad :(
I've never really been bullied like that. Girls (and sometimes boys) used to bother me at elementary school because I guess I just didn't matched their stereotypes. I wasn't exactly a girly-girly girl, and my appearance didn't helped either, because I was very tall and skinny and white, and I didn't looked like the other girls, who where tan and shorter and a bit more chubby. So they would say things like that I was an alien, or that I was adopted. And sometimes they would even do things like throwing glue at my hair, or hitting me with balls.
But after a while I got really tired of it, so when a girl insulted me, I just answered her some pretty nasty things (for our age, at least xD) and she started to cry. No one ever bothered me again, and we even became like some sort of friends.
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spazzysazzy
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12th April 2006 - 08:35 pm |
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yer i was bullied for 4 years was called e.t it makes me feel sick to the stomach any time e.t is mentioned on tv ect it really has badly affected my self esteem to i hate bullies they really are lame... |
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Eva~
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12th April 2006 - 08:56 pm |
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I hate people who do something like that! I've never been bullied. I'm lucky I can say that. Also I can say that I've never bullied a person. So far as I know.
In Germany they beat someone up and film it with the mobilephone. They trade the films and are proud of them. It's horroble! I don't know if that happens only in Germany. And I'm happy that this doesn't happen at my school. But there are so many evil people who project their own proplems on other people. That makes me really sick.
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Mattness
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12th April 2006 - 09:03 pm |
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Bullying sickens me.
I am scared in school alot of times, and kind of afraid to meet this boy, 'Kees'. He is always calling me 'gay', then hitting me, throwing me to the ground, kicking me, etc. I have done jiu-jitsu for 2 years, so it's not like I'm not able to fight back, but somehow when he is around, I get this kind of block over me. I don't know what to say or do, basically. There are lots of other people calling me stuff and pushing me, too - I just am really kind of afraid for him. It's basically because of the way I look - I am the only person at my school with long hair and these people are mostly just so stupid that they can't accept that, I don't really know how to explain. So that makes me a gay. Someone should really explain to them that that has got nothing to do with looks or anything, that it's just about sexual interest..
I did want to go to another school but I'm just too scared of losing my friends and having problems in the other school as well.. |
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Nightshadows
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12th April 2006 - 09:04 pm |
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Quote Eva~
In Germany they beat someone up and film it with the mobilephone. They trade the films and are proud of them. It's horroble! I don't know if that happens only in Germany. And I'm happy that this doesn't happen at my school. But there are so many evil people who project their own proplems on other people. That makes me really sick.
In the Uk thats called happy slapping, the kill people and film it, they even rape women and pass it round their friends.
I used to get bullied because I wasn't born in the UK though my parents were.
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Eva~
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12th April 2006 - 09:08 pm |
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Really? They kill people? OMG! Didn't know that this went so far... |
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Sarah
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12th April 2006 - 09:27 pm |
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- I've been labled as fat or "pregnant" since I was seven
- When I was in year four, someone turned the entire grade against me, and I literally had nobody to talk to for an entire year
- In year 8, 9 and 10 i was verbally and physically abused by some girls in my grade. They even found my website and left me slanderous comments on there. At one stage I had to stay inside with a teacher at lunches because this teacher was so concerned for my safety. I'd get pushed into metal lockers, punched in the back, kicked... One couple even threatened to bash the shit out of me.
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Angie
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12th April 2006 - 10:14 pm |
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All these stories are horrible :(
I was bullied mostly in elementary, I was sexually molested when I was 9. One day while in class a detective had came in the classroom wanting to speak to me, needless to say, my entire class found out what had happened and soon the entire school did. And like Kelly, people would make fun of me and tell me I liked being touched my an older man, that I seduced him (it was so screwed up that even my AUNT used to tell me that I was lying about it, or if I wasn't lying about it, it was my fault anyway because HE didn't know any better..wtf?!) it was also her bf btw. :\
Also, I've had 'big boobs' pretty much ever since I was in 4th grade. I was pretty much the only girl with a chest and girls used to run up to me and say that I was a slut, I used to stuff my bra, I slept around (which also goes back to the molested topic) and the guys used to grab at me all the time, and the teachers didn't do crap, my mom even went to the school principal and she still didn't do anything. I jsut ended up switching schools and things slowly got better |
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Matt
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12th April 2006 - 10:43 pm |
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I;ve not really had a problem i can't handle, people try to bully me i put a sarcastic laugh on and up goes the fingers and i walk off. If someone shouts somethign at me i've always turned around and just stumped them. I think they see me as an easy target because i don't respong, i don't get physical but like things shouted but when i do respond i just tell them where to shove it bascailly. |
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Seven
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12th April 2006 - 10:48 pm |
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Bullying is the worst thing ever. :(
I was bullied constantly by a girl who claimed to be my friend. I used to take ballet, and because of all the constant staring in the mirror I was very self conscious. I didn't really worry about eating healthy though, because dancing 6 hours a day keeps you pretty thin no matter what you eat. Everyday at school at lunch this girl Jackie, who I only hung out with because she was friends with a couple of my friends, would say I was anorexic. I thought she was just goofing around (even though I found out later she did it because she was overweight and hated me for not being overweight), and because I didn't want people to think I was stuffy or something, I went along and laughed about it, even though it really hurt.
Eventually Jackie spread the rumor around school that I was anorexic and bulimic, and this rumor eventually reached the guidance councellor who called me into his office to talk about "my problem", which of course I didn't have. I eventually told my best friend how much it bothered me, and I guess he told my other friends because the next time Jackie made a comment everyone told her to shut up.
Pretty soon after that Jackie had a falling out with all the rest of my friends, tried to kill herself and ended up going to another high school. She came back after about a semester and said to me "oh my gosh it's my best friend SHANNON!". I think I told her to screw herself or something to that effect. She ended up getting kicked out of school for biting her bus driver (yes, I said BITING her BUS DRIVER). Last I heard she was shacking up with some 45 year old guy and had gained like 100 lbs.
...is it wrong that I think that's hilarious? |
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Carina
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12th April 2006 - 11:25 pm |
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All the stories are really bad... that reminds me. The guy I mentioned, the guy who I said was a bully too, started going out with one of my close friends. He started to verbally and physically bully me (making fun of me, hitting me with a ruler, stealing my stuff, locking me out of classrooms and pouring all my stuff on the floor), and she didn't really care. One day, not long ago (A few weeks), after he had punched me in the face, I punched him back. After that, I took my ruler and hit him in the shoulder. 'Did you just HIT me?' 'No. Besides, you hit me all the time. I'd expect you to be okay with it. Also, I thought you could never get hurt? And by a girl?' At that, I took the flat side of my ruler and hit him in the shoulder again. He glared at me and now he still bothers me a bit but not as much. |
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thebre
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13th April 2006 - 08:07 am |
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I remember in junior high when I lived in California. I was on my wait to my social studies class. And I was right outside the door, when all the sudden from behind me (and I never knew who it was), somebody shoved me really harshly into the lockers on the wall. My eye hit the combination dial and I got a black eye. I know it was on purpose, cause I remember feeling somebody pushing up against my backpack and pushing me. I just never found out who it was. My teacher was right there too, and she never did anything. She was the worst excuse of a teacher. Uch, she was crap. But yeah, that was my victimizing experience.
I also remember another time, at the same school, this group of like... erm, 3 girls bullied me. I got up during lunch one day and came back and my back-pack was gone. Ended up finding out they had tossed it in a tree somewhere on the school campus. After school was over and my dad picked me up, I told him what happend. I pointed to the girls and he screamed at them to go get my bag before he reported them to the principle. |
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bullyboop
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13th April 2006 - 08:36 am |
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These are all awful...
I've had a few experiences, but I can usually take care of them myself.
There was this boy I went out with in year 7. Anyway he finished it after like a week which I was happy about 'cause I didn't really like him, just felt sorry for him, and he was an idiot. Anyway, in year 8 he would walk home the same way as me, and he and his friends would verbally abuse me. I gave it back too, but then they started lobbing rubbish at me, and kicking me... One day he got his older sister to "beat me up", or whatever the hell they call beating up, she couldn't punch worth beans. I just remember her shoving me, not even knowing who I was and I lost it. I slammed her to the ground, kicked her in the head and ran home. I told my mum everything and she was proud of me that I stood up for myself. So was I because this girl was quite a bit bigger than me.
I've also had a few others. One quite recently, this girl picked on me 'cause her bitch sister told her i'd been slagging her off. Which I hadn't and if anyone had it was her sister. Anyway, she and her friends called me fat (which i'm sorry, but i AM NOT. I may be many things, but fuck off calling me fat because i'm far from it lol), and said i was skanky and all this shit. Which I gave back to her in more a more offencive way, and she continued. She started arguments with me infront of my friends, who didn't stick up for me, but found it funny because she was also their friend. Needless to say my friends aren't ever very supportive of me... They're useless bitches most of the time. My best friend moved away recently, but we still see eachother, and she's just an awesome girl. Anyway, this argument only 'sortof' finished because i threatened to report her. Coward...
Sticking to the subject of my 'friends' I hand with at school. Theres this one bitch that ALWAYS, ALWAYS insults my appearence. Like for no reason, she'll just come out with 'wow, i never realised how big your nose actually is! hahaha', ya know like picking things. Haha nose, picking things. Anyway, moving swiftly on. Last year we were all hanging out, and i'd had a shit day, and they were all like messing around. And they all say to her "yeah hit Jaz in the head"... those fucking bitches. And she did it too. They all laughed while i completely lost it. I ran over and rammed her into the wall, screamed at her, punched HER in the head (hard hehe), and ran off crying. Laura (my best bud) was in school at the time and came after me, as did alison who saw it all. They both supported me and laughed that I had hit her, 'cause she deserved it and "she is so horrible". :D
She still picks things about me though, so I just do it right back 'cause there is just so much more on her to pick.
I've had so many experiences... alot worse than those two, but I just always handled them... My friend Alison gets bullied so much, and because I always stand up for her I get some abuse too. But unlike the girls I hang around with I stick by my friends, especially Alison because she can't handle things well. She gets attacked pretty much every day, and has to take pills for headaches caused by stress... So ya know... *shrug*
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Andrea
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13th April 2006 - 09:29 am |
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Quote Mattness
It's basically because of the way I look - I am the only person at my school with long hair and these people are mostly just so stupid that they can't accept that, I don't really know how to explain. So that makes me a gay.
That's so weird. At my school and environment so many boys have long hair, and it's actually kinda *cool* if it looks good on you. O.o
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spazzysazzy
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13th April 2006 - 01:49 pm |
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Quote Andrea
Quote Mattness
It's basically because of the way I look - I am the only person at my school with long hair and these people are mostly just so stupid that they can't accept that, I don't really know how to explain. So that makes me a gay.
That's so weird. At my school and environment so many boys have long hair, and it's actually kinda *cool* if it looks good on you. O.o
same at my school !! there considered 'hot'
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spazzysazzy
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13th April 2006 - 01:56 pm |
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I dont get the E.T stuff much anymore probably because the people have grown up and because i started just agreeing with them when they would call me it i would just go 'yerp innit' and thank god its seemed to have stopped now and although its not very nice, its made me a stronger person im more upfront with things now and i dont care what people think of me anymore so i suppose i have that to thank the bullies but it still has very badly affected my self esteem i hate my looks now and im always puttin gmyself down when my boyfriend says im gorgeous or something i think that pisses him off sometimes but i just cant help it!!!
Thankfully i havent ever had any physical bullying ive never been beaten up , but nayone who has i feel very sorry for its terrible and nobody should have to go through it... |
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