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Kyla
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28th April 2006 - 09:16 am |
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Yes, I really did! My girlfriend proposed to me.
I submitted a photo on DA and wrote a nice blurb, so I'll copy and paste.
I had NO idea this was coming. We talk about it all the time, but decided we'd get engaged next year because there's so much going on right now. I had actually planned on asking her on New Years Eve come January, but she beat me to it! A little summary of what happened: Jen arrived home and soon after she said she had to do something in her room, but I wasn't allowed to come in. She does this quite frequently (she's the romantic type). An hour or so later she told me to close my eyes and guided me to her room. When I opened my eyes the light was off but the room was lighted by 10+ candles she had bought and light. At my feet were rose petals leading to more rose petals that spelled out "I (heart) You". It was an actual heart instead of the word heart... Then there were rose petals on her bed and around the rest of the room and two roses crossed on her pillows (one white, one pink). Pink and white are my favourite rose colours. She gave me a huge bouquet of all my fave flowers, then she sat me down, got on one knee and told me how much she loves me, how she wants to spend the rest of her life with me and more good stuff. Then she pulled out the ring, took my hand, and asked me to marry her. It was really perfect. I couldn't have asked for more. The ring is a perfect fit! You'll notice it in the photo (left). Jen knows I hate wearing jewerly on my hands unless it's light and not bulky, so she got me a thin band with a princess cut diamond. I didn't really capture the ring very well, but it's really beautiful. Just what I wanted. So now I guess I have to tell my family that I'm bi-sexual and that I'm engaged to my best friend. Hm, that will go over well :P
BTW, the picture is of some of the rose petals we put in a cute pink box we had.
Picture:

Update: So since i posted this I have come out to my brother and told him Jen and I are engaged. I figured my brother would take it best as I've heard him many times say how he doesn't have a problem w/ gay people. I'm not sure how it went... maybe I expected, "wow, congrats!" but that's not what I got. I'm a little discouraged about coming out to the rest of my family now. I told him over msn because I'm a pussy. Anyway, this is the convo: (excuse the lack of punctuation and proper grammar)
Me says:
i have something to tell you but i don't want you to tell anyone else
Brother says:
ok...?
Me says:
promise
Brother says:
ok
Me says:
k so jen and I are a couple. maybe you knew, i think i overheard mom asking you about us one time
Brother says:
uh nope that was definately a mystery to me
Me says:
does that bother u?
Brother says:
not really
Me says:
r u surprised?
Brother says:
uhh
Brother says:
yes and no?
Me says:
what do you mean?
Brother says:
i dunno... but seriously... honestly, dont you think I have to write a sitcom about based on our family?
Me says:
well, i'm all for that, we're one weird ass family
Brother says:
exclaimation point
Me says:
and we're engaged
Brother says:
for the record I am straight as an arrow
Me says:
lol, well i didn't think you were bi/gay anyway
Brother says:
engaged... thats a step....
Brother says:
dont take offence if I miss the wedding?
Me says:
hm, well it's not like we'd get married tomorrow, more like in a few years and why would u miss it?
Brother says:
um yea cause its just too weird?
Me says:
how is it weird?
Brother says:
comon... i mean comon
Brother says:
no, SERIOUSLY i mean, comon
Brother says:
no, really, HONESTLY
Brother says:
COMON
Me says:
i don't see how it's weird
Brother says:
are you for real? think of this from my perspective!!!
Me says:
well obviously a shocker right now because it's so new to you
Me says:
but once you pass the "wtf" stage, I think you'll think differently
Brother says:
that stage may be long
Me says:
do you not have any bi/gay friends/couple friends?
Brother says:
um no......
Me says:
i think half of all my friends are either bi/gay
Brother says:
yea i think less than 1 of my friends are
Me says:
maybe they just haven't told you?
Brother says:
uhhh i dont know
Brother says:
i dont think so
Me says:
well i just thought you should know and i felt i could tell you first
Brother says:
so im the first to know this?
Me says:
in the family yes
Brother says:
hm
Brother says:
yea dont worry im not gonna spread that around
Me says:
but you understand that people are born this way.. like how [Sister] has depression
Brother says:
im not so sure about that
Me says:
Do you honestly think that someone would choose this lifestyle?
Brother says:
uhhhhh well whats stopping you from not chosing it?
Me says:
i was born that way?
Brother says:
well i jsut dont know what is true
Me says:
how can you not when it's been proven?
Brother says:
what do you mean proven
Me says:
that someone is born bi/gay
Brother says:
how has it been proven?
Me says:
do some research
Brother says:
cant you just summarize for me?
Me says:
there are structural differences in the brains of gay people
Brother says:
care to elaborate?
Brother says:
hey im going to play a game and then go to sleep
Me says:
ok
Me says:
ttyl
Brother says:
nightnight
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jezebel |
28th April 2006 - 09:21 am |
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Argh congrats! That's SO sweet the way you were proposed too..I wish you two all the happiness in the world.
And the best way to tell your parents "Well..you know how you say your partner is your best friend, and that makes it a good marriage? Well, yeah, I'M MARRYING MINE! We decided to get the friends thing out of the way first:P". |
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Carina
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28th April 2006 - 09:33 am |
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Congratulations!!! <333
You haven't told your family yet? Good luck... |
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Dana
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28th April 2006 - 09:52 am |
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congratulations, i hope you 2 will be ending very happy together! |
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Kyla
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28th April 2006 - 09:55 am |
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Quote jezebel
Argh congrats! That's SO sweet the way you were proposed too..I wish you two all the happiness in the world.
And the best way to tell your parents "Well..you know how you say your partner is your best friend, and that makes it a good marriage? Well, yeah, I'M MARRYING MINE! We decided to get the friends thing out of the way first:P".
Thank you so much :) I'm not too worried about telling my mother since I'm pretty sure she already knows. She just got her engagement ring from my soon-to-be step-father so I'll just be like, "oh, let's compare engagement rings" and then she'll clue in since she thinks I've been pretty much been a loser for the past 3 years because I wasn't dating anyone (even though I was :P). Not to mention, she used to ask me practically daily if Jen was my girlfriend and even started referring to her as my girlfriend, but I was too scared to admit it to her. My dad, though... I don't know what he'll think. My brother and sister... well, we aren't that close, so if they do disapprove, it won't hurt me much. My grandparents will be disgusted, since they've told me point blank that if their daughter/grandaughter/son/grandson were gay they would never speak to them again. My friends all know, so at least that's taken care of!
Quote Carina
Congratulations!!! <333
You haven't told your family yet? Good luck...
Thank you <3 *needs the luck* hehe.
Quote Dana
congratulations, i hope you 2 will be ending very happy together!
Thanks :) We will!
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lilvdzwan
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28th April 2006 - 09:56 am |
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Kyla, that's great news!!!
You are going to have a very happy life together!!!
congratulations sweetheart!
I wish you all the best!!! |
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Kyla
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28th April 2006 - 10:00 am |
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^ Thank you Lilly! <3 |
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IAmTheWalrus |
28th April 2006 - 10:04 am |
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Wow congratulations!! *big hug*
That is such a romantic engagement story.
Anyway, best regards, hope you get everything you want together =D |
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Linda
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28th April 2006 - 11:34 am |
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Oh my god Congratulations!! That's so exciting and everything sounded soo romantic and beautiful gosh. I love the ring too, I'm like you I don't like big bulky rings but that one is so precious and beautiful. |
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Kyla
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28th April 2006 - 12:15 pm |
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Thank you both :)
@ Linda: Ya :) I like not feeling the ring, and that's how this is. Jen on the other hand, would love to walk around with a 5-carat diamond on her finger :P Too bad I can't afford that! lol. |
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Mattness
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28th April 2006 - 12:42 pm |
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Aww yay!!! Good luck on telling your family *hug* Will your grandparents really not talk to you anymore? :|
Anyway, once that's out of the way.. don't feel too bad about it because if your mother already actually kind of knows, then.. well ;)
I wish you two all the luck and all the best!
Congrats :D
(Wow.. reading that post again it doesn't really make any sense but yeah.. CONGRATS. :D « that was the most important part.) |
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radioslutx
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28th April 2006 - 01:05 pm |
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JHDSSKFHDK KYLA!~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :O:O *gaspgasp* OMG!! SHE DID IT!!! :D
Wowwwwww gosh well.. after you obviously spend lots of romantic time with her after what happened, YOU NEED TO COME ONLINE SO I CAN GO ON WITH MY OMGOSHNESS THAT SHE PROPOSED TO YOU AND ALL THE LOVELY THINGS INCLUDED!!
Omg i can't believe it!! she did it... and all the time we thought that you would do it LOL.. GOSHH im soo happy for you doll <33 and now you must tell your family like i told you to haha but then show them the ring first be all like "see dat bling bling? from my homie.. I MEAN SOON TO BE LOVELY WIFE(!!!!).. JEN!!!!!" whoaaaa thatd be awesome. yet might shock your dad just a littttle bit. ;) or not... i say go for it tell him and (YES YES YOUR GRANDPARENTS THEY NEED A GOOD SHOCK TOO possibly an attack too.....? nah i wont be THAT cruel :P) and and and then tell me all about how it went.
Gosh <333333333333
^_^ ^_^ ^_^ ^_^ ^_^ ^_^ |
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Raelynn
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28th April 2006 - 01:33 pm |
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Aw thats so sweet, I hope you guys have a great life together! |
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Eva~
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28th April 2006 - 02:17 pm |
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Wow! thats sounds very romantic :D
I wish you so much luck! <33 And the ring is very beautiful! |
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zummi
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28th April 2006 - 02:19 pm |
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Im sooOooo happy for you!! :D
I hope all goes well, Good luck! *hugs* :) |
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kilxover
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28th April 2006 - 03:35 pm |
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Awww congrats!!!!!
That is so sweet, I hope that your engagement is as lovely as that night! I'm really happy for you and hope that the whole parent thing goes well : )
*big hug* |
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Jules
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28th April 2006 - 04:00 pm |
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that is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo romantic - im jealous! hell no im not, you deserve it! :) you know i was reading your little story and was like 'aww thats so sweet' every two seconds! lol
all the best to the both of you! |
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AcidDoll
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28th April 2006 - 04:03 pm |
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Congratulations Kyla !! :D
I'm sure you two will have a lovely future together.
And good luck telling your family. |
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Haley
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28th April 2006 - 04:08 pm |
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Congrats Kyla! THat sounds really sweet. Hope things go over good with your family. Seriously, good luck and congrats. |
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Kyla
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28th April 2006 - 04:20 pm |
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Thank you everyone :) You're all too kind! <3 I love my www.vexels.net posse! LOL |
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maganle
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28th April 2006 - 06:00 pm |
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awww, that's so great!!!!!!!!!!! *throws more petals at you two's feet* ^____^!
wow, that is kinda scary, though, that you still haven't told your family, and finally... you are, when something THIS HUGE happens. it'll be a double shocker for them. ^`) |
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Kyla
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28th April 2006 - 06:26 pm |
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^ haha, ya. Well, it will make it more 'real' to them. I know a lot of people who have come out and their parents just think it's a phase. Now that I'm engaged, they'll at least understand that it's true and this is who I really am. |
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angel421355
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28th April 2006 - 06:41 pm |
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awwww...congratulations to you hun =] hope your parents take it well, ah congratulations!!! |
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Angie
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28th April 2006 - 07:22 pm |
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awww thats one of the best engagement stories!! I wish you 2 all the happiness in the world!! :D :D :D :D :D !!! |
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Ester
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28th April 2006 - 08:43 pm |
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omg congrats!!!!!! :D
It sounds so cute how she proposed to you!!
Do you already know when it is and how you two want it to be? Like a big party or small one?
Sorry for all the questions but I'm so excited for you!! |
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Kyla
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28th April 2006 - 09:02 pm |
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Thanks Tifney, Angie, and Ester :)
@ Ester: Depending if my family still accepts us (I'm sure they will), we'd want it to be my family and our close friends. We'd both wear wedding dresses though, since we're both femme dykes :P LOL. The reason why I say my family and not our families is because 2 years ago, 7 months into our relationship she told her dad that she was a lesbian and that I was her gf. He kicked her out of his house that day and she doesn't know where her real mother is. It's sad :( My family is her family now. |
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Angie
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28th April 2006 - 09:17 pm |
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Quote Kyla
The reason why I say my family and not our families is because 2 years ago, 7 months into our relationship she told her dad that she was a lesbian and that I was her gf. He kicked her out of his house that day and she doesn't know where her real mother is. It's sad :( My family is her family now.
Thats so sad :( It's a shame that her own father can turn his back on her just because she is being who she really is :\ Some people are so close minded.
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Anna
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28th April 2006 - 09:25 pm |
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WOOWOWOWOWOWOOW WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? GO AHEAD AND ADOPT ANNA! <33333333
My dear Kyla, I'm so happy for youuuu :) when you're happy I'm happy too. |
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Kyla
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28th April 2006 - 09:56 pm |
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Quote Angie
Thats so sad :( It's a shame that her own father can turn his back on her just because she is being who she really is :\ Some people are so close minded.
I know :( I see him in town and I just want to ask him How... how he could do that to his own daughter. It is sad, but my dad has really stepped in, I love him for that :) Now I just need to get pregnant so our babies can date! hehe, jk :P
@ Anna: *adopts you* :D *rocks you like a baby* haha. Gee, you're getting to big for momma to carry around these days *sigh*
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Sarah
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28th April 2006 - 11:27 pm |
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Awww Kyla, that is so incredibly sweet! :) Really! I'm so happy for you.
And this is the first time i've ever actually had someone tell me they were proposed to by a girl ( but i guess there was no way around that in this relationship ;D)
ohh wowww... :O
I'm so glad that she has your family to turn to when she needs someone. It sounds like you and her have an awesome relationship, and i wish you all the best :D |
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