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Offline Related > Friends and Relationships > I got engaged! [updated] Page: 1 2 3
Sarah
  28th April 2006 - 11:27 pm
 
Oh, I have a question for you: Is she going to be wearing an engagement ring too? :)
  

scorpio
  28th April 2006 - 11:27 pm
 
Thats awesome! Congrats! All the best.
  

marleen
  28th April 2006 - 11:33 pm
 
VERY sweet Kyla!
I wish you both all the best and all the luck of the world <3
  

Joe Law
  28th April 2006 - 11:43 pm
 
That's really awesome, good luck to you guys!
  

Kyla
  29th April 2006 - 12:47 am
 
Quote Sarah
Oh, I have a question for you: Is she going to be wearing an engagement ring too? :)


Yup, I'm getting her one for our 3-year anniversary (August 5th) and we'll both be wearing wedding dresses, we're both lipstick lesbians as they say (really feminine, not butch).

Thank you to everyone :)
  

Sarah
  29th April 2006 - 01:11 am
 
You so have to show us photos of the wedding, mkay?
  

emphaqist
  29th April 2006 - 01:11 am
 
WOW!! Congrats!! :D I'm so happy for you :) The way she proposed sounded so romantic and sweet... awwwww. I think you guys will have a great relationship together.
But omg, I can't believe your fiance's dad kicked her out.. what a freaking loser. I'm not sure how my parents would take it though, if i was lesbian. My mom told me that she'd never speak to me if I ever got piercings again (i have one on each ear right now) or a tattoo. She was probably joking; I know she loves me, but heh.. yeah i don't know how she'd take it if I had a wife.

Good luck with your family! =) Just curious is anyone else in your family bi-sexual?
  

Kyla
  29th April 2006 - 01:26 am
 
Quote Sarah
You so have to show us photos of the wedding, mkay?


Of course :)

@ Chole: It's so cute hearing you say 'finance'. I call her that all the time now :) I love it! I pretty much know how everyone will take it. I've tested them out to see where they stand with gay people. My brother uses the term gay as slang, but he's told me he's got no problem with them. My sister I don't talk to much, and I'm not sure where she stands on it, but I remember seeing a picture of her kissing a girl on her computer.. obviously drunk, but still.. gives me hope she won't be totally disgusted or hate me for being lesbian. My mom likes gay people, but doesn't understand bi-sexual people. She says they need to choose which side of the fence to be on, they can't have both.. but I know she'll just say, "i knew it, what took you so long to tell me." My grandparents I'm not going to tell because we're not on speaking terms so I have no reason to tell them. They'll probably find out indirectly. They've told me in the past if any of their grandchildren were gay they would never speak to them again and be disgusted and ashamed. They don't believe you're born gay, they think you choose it. Ignorance :S Like I'd really choose to be gay? Are you kidding me? My dad is the only mystery. He's the most warm, kind-hearted man you'll meet, but he won't watch brokeback mountain!! goddamit, he freaks out if you say the movie title. lol. But I guess he's got to keep his manlyness. He's not going to be like, "omg, kekeke, lets watch brokeback mountain, yay gay sex scenes." So who knows, lol. As far as I know, I'm the only bi-sexual/gay person in my family.
  

Sarah
  29th April 2006 - 01:50 am
 
Kyla, i'm sure that if you dad loves you as much as he seems to do, he'll accept it. You're his baby girl, and nothings going to change that. :) If he doesnt accept it at first, i'm sure he'll come to terms with it. The other option is that he doesnt have his daughter in his life, and i'm sure he wouldn't want that. <3

  

Kyla
  29th April 2006 - 01:58 am
 
Ya :) You're right. Thank you for making me realize. I'm battling myself here, not them. I'm more afraid to say the words then their reaction. I plan to tell my mom first, this weekend. She'll help me on how to tell everyone else.
  

Sarah
  29th April 2006 - 02:03 am
 
:) Well i'm glad I could help. Really, I'm so sure your family will be so so happy for you. They already know you're not straight, right? If they're happy with that, I'm not sure why they wouldn't be happy with you getting married. :O
  

Kyla
  29th April 2006 - 02:07 am
 
Quote Sarah
:) Well i'm glad I could help. Really, I'm so sure your family will be so so happy for you. They already know you're not straight, right? If they're happy with that, I'm not sure why they wouldn't be happy with you getting married. :O

That's the thing, they don't know I'm not straight. They have every reason to believe I am since I've had a lot of boyfriends (just none in the past 3 years). So i'll be telling them I'm gay AND getting married. lmao. What have I got myself into? j/k. All will go well, I really believe it will.
  

Sarah
  29th April 2006 - 02:35 am
 
:O oh...

Well, i'm sure they'll be okay with it. Have they met your girlfriend (even if they don't know she's your girlfriend?) <3

i hope it all turns out okay. :O :S
  

Kyla
  29th April 2006 - 02:47 am
 
^ Thanks

and yup, she's lived with my family now for... over 2 years. And it's so obvious we're together. Who else would I be getting roses from all the time and little stuffed animals and I love you pillows and all that stuff. LOL. My dad is clueless to most things though, so he probably has no idea. My mom moved out last year, but she knew back then. She would call Jen my gf. She'd say, "where's your girlfriend at?" Sometimes she'd say lover.. it was a joke we had (although I'm sure she knew it to be true). Well, I plan to tell her sometime this weekend.
  

Linda
  29th April 2006 - 03:33 am
 
I'm sure your dad will be fine :) My dad is like that too.. it's like they have to prove how un-gay they are or something but if you straight up ask him if he has a problem with gay people the answer is always no. Their generation was just bought up like that.. or something. Good luck! It must be exciting to tell everyone and finally everything will be out in the open :D
  

Kyla
  29th April 2006 - 03:54 am
 
haha, yes, that's so true. It's that way for a lot of my guy friends. I'm so glad for everyone, you all are really reassuring me everything is going to go well, and that's exactly what I needed. It will sure be a load of my shoulders once it's all out :)
  

Ester
  29th April 2006 - 05:56 am
 
Quote Kyla
Thanks Tifney, Angie, and Ester :)

@ Ester: Depending if my family still accepts us (I'm sure they will), we'd want it to be my family and our close friends. We'd both wear wedding dresses though, since we're both femme dykes :P LOL. The reason why I say my family and not our families is because 2 years ago, 7 months into our relationship she told her dad that she was a lesbian and that I was her gf. He kicked her out of his house that day and she doesn't know where her real mother is. It's sad :( My family is her family now.

Owh that's really sad :( Well luckely she has you and your family
But when it time for picking dresses (well that will take some time I guess) are you gonna post a pic of it?
I like wedding dresses! ;)
  

Kyla
  29th April 2006 - 06:00 am
 
^ I'm sure I will :) But we haven't decided on a date yet. Possibly next summer. I want to finish school and get a good job before we get married. :)
  

Carina
  30th April 2006 - 09:28 am
 
I really hope I don't sound homophobic when I say this because honestly I'm not against homosexuality, but who walks down the aisle?
  

Kyla
  30th April 2006 - 09:51 am
 
Quote Carina
I really hope I don't sound homophobic when I say this because honestly I'm not against homosexuality, but who walks down the aisle?


haha, that doesn't sound homophobic. Well, we both would.. who goes first will be decided later. :)
  

Lisette
  05th May 2006 - 10:21 am
 
Ohhhhh Kyla, how wonderful!!!!!!!!!!! *puts on a party hat*
Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And yes, please show us some of the wedding pics, when you get them. I would love to see the beautiful dress (or two, which is even better, more pretty pretty to look at :P) and decorations and stuff (yes, I secretly do like pretty clothes and cute decorations, don't tell anybody!)


Quote: So now I guess I have to tell my family that I'm bi-sexual and that I'm engaged to my best friend

Haha, this made me laugh. I guess that now would be a good time to tell them, yeah :P
Good luck sweetie, I'm sure there's nothing to be nervous about. You're parents will love you no mather what.
And your grandparents.. well I don't know, it must have been so hard to hear that :( Don't be afraid to tell them anyway, you never know how they'll react.
And if they don't like it, too bad, don't be sad, you've found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, that's amazing =D

Again, congrats to you and Jen =D
  

Kyla
  05th May 2006 - 10:44 am
 
Lisette, thank you :)
  

elle_tia
  05th May 2006 - 05:40 pm
 
wait ur girlfriend? lol just to let u know i am not insulting u just wondering.... =P

wow thats so sweet! adorable really lol as sarah said its the first time ive heard of this but really still cute lol... rose petals and candles, what a great mix.
good luck!
  

Kyla
  15th May 2006 - 08:14 am
 
So i came out to my brother... conversation in the first post. :S I'm not sure if that's a good or bad thing. I'm upset that he said he won't come to our wedding :(
  

Jules
  15th May 2006 - 08:23 am
 
just read the convo- sorry but i wanna kick your brothers ass lol he should be supporting you and encouraging you :( this makes me sad, but you keep your head up girl! :)
  

Kyla
  15th May 2006 - 08:28 am
 
Quote Jules
just read the convo- sorry but i wanna kick your brothers ass lol he should be supporting you and encouraging you :( this makes me sad, but you keep your head up girl! :)

Yah.. I expected a little more from him. At least he didn't 'disown' me, but the real test is how things will change between us. I mean, we aren't the closest and I felt a little ease telling him knowing that in 3 months he will be moving out of the house and I won't have to see him daily if things are awkward.. but I do expect things to be weird for a while, especially now after knowing how he feels about it. The thing that bothers me most is that he's ignorant about homosexuality. As if I would choose this lifestyle knowing people are murdered, shunned, abused, insulted, and outcasts because of it. Why on earth would anyone choose that over being in the 'norm'?
  

Jules
  15th May 2006 - 08:57 am
 
yeah i feel you, im not too close to my brothers either and have (thank god) found a way of accepting them as a part of my life but dont let their ish get too close to me, so i dont really care when they try to pick on me.
regarding your situation - what more could you possibly do? youve told him, youve even invited him to the wedding, youve tried to make him understand that this is who you are not who you chose to be, give him time to think about it and accept (or at least respect) it, theres nothing wrong with you, your still his sister and hes the first person you came out to, so i think he should feel somewhat proud lol
  

scorpio
  15th May 2006 - 09:06 am
 
The first, and really only time someone close to me came out to me was my one of my best friends in highschool. It shook me at first, and I didn't react as I should've, and things were a little wierd, but after a breif period we became close again. But in all honesty it did took some getting used to... Anyways, I hope your brother comes around, and ends up being more supportive to you!
  

Kyla
  15th May 2006 - 09:24 am
 
^ Thanks.

I know what you mean too. Before I even knew I was gay and Jen came on to me, I freaked out, ignored her for a day or so, laughed it off with a friend and was down right rude (how ironic). I expect things to be weird for a bit and then cool off since there's nothing no one can do to change who I am.

@ Jules: All of my current friends know I'm with Jen, I've told them all, so it wasn't my first time coming out, but it's totally different coming out to your family. I have lost a few friends because they couldn't accept me for who I was.
  

Gwen
  15th May 2006 - 10:22 am
 
Oh my god Kyla!!!! CONGRATS!!! :D :D :D Wow it sounds soo perfect!! I'm so happy for you!! Your girlfriend must be the sweetest in the world!!
Good luck telling the rest of the family! *still excited* Congrats sweetie! <333
  

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